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Day Seventeen: Going to a party without Baby Bug. Gasp!

morning coffee and slippers

If you’re looking at this then you know I am using the “post ahead” feature of blogging. I’m so thankful that there is such a feature because today is going to be a big day and I don’t think I’ll have a chance to post before midnight.

Toby and I are going to a fancy party tonight (hopefully fancy shoe shots to come tomorrow if Toby doesn’t kill me for taking pictures of my feet all the time).

Can you believe it? Toby and I are actually going out and leaving Baby Bug at home with her Gramma and Papa (my parents). I’m getting hives just thinking about it. I know most of you have left your babies long before they were two but I AM A FREAK! We do everything together ALL DAY LONG!!!! I feel like I’m betraying her if I abandon her for even a minute.

Yes, I know I am wrong. And yes, I know it is good for her to be independent but….

Will she be able to go to sleep without me? Will she wake up crying for her pacifier (“pah”) and then get scared when I’m not there to retrieve it for her? What if she cries the entire night? What if Papa decides it’s high time she learned to “cry it out” and she cries the entire night!!! And the kicker question: Will I be able to enjoy myself at this adult party without worrying about Baby Bug every minute?

Probably not. But it is supposed to be a really fun party. I’ll keep you posted.


  • SmocknMama

    Breathe. It will be fine. BB will be fine. You know this already, but just reminding you. Are you a freak for not leaving her before now? No. Most certainly not. I hope you are having a fine time. Or had a fine time (by the time you read this).

  • Michelle

    Awww, she’ll be fine :o) I understand how you feel though…that’s normal. Go and have fun with your husband..Baby Bug will be great!


  • Gramma

    The very first time I left your mom behind she was nine months old. We had often visited with my mother and she was quite comfortable with her. Even though she was already walking AND running my mother was able to keep up with her. We were off on a trip with Eleanor and Jack, (our college friends) to spend a week at Jack’s family’s cottage in Maine. I grumbled just a little bit on the way north from Philadelphia. But, by the time we got to Boston I was a basket case. The other three plied me with coffee and assured me that my mother would no doubt take better care of her than I would myself. That settled it. I merely wimpered a little more, but relaxed and really did enjoy the time at Lake St. Catherine and Patmos Island where they grew the most fabulous blueberries. I even made blueberry muffins in an old fashioned cast iron wood-burning cook stove.

  • bluejaye

    Tuck a couple of pictures in your fancy, big girl on the town purse, (or Toby’s pocket). The will be okay, I mean your parents did okay with you!!!

    Have fun. We are almost at the point where we don’t even need a baby sitter and we still don’t go out.

  • bethany actually

    Yay, date night with fancy shoes! Have a blast! I know you will be worrying about BB no matter what anyone does or says, so I hope it helps to know that I’ll be praying for everyone involved. :-) Looking forward to hearing all about it!

  • TheAngelForever

    Love your slippers :)

    Hopefully once you head out you will have a wonderful time with your husband and other adults. BB will no doubt miss you, but all kids love time with their grandparents (mine chants for it). Hope to hear a great report that includes how Toby enjoyed you taking shoe shots!

  • OMSH

    Ooooh, party. I might have to stay up all night with Yahoo! IM open to find out how it went. Then again, if it was fabulous the last thing you’d do is come home and IM.


  • andrea

    Relax and have a great time. I am sure BB will have a great time with the grandparents so don’t spend more than a minute worrying about it and try to enjoy yourself!

  • Lin

    I know you know this, but save your worrying for when you leave your child with someone other than your own parents. Seems to me like you’re doing a terrific parenting job except for this one little area…alone time with BB’s pa. Getting away from a baby is just as important as spending time with her. NOW GO HAVE FUN!

  • Annika

    I have not left Sam for more than an hour and a half, and never at night! So I do not think you’re a freak at all. But oh, how lovely a date sounds! I am a little envious.

  • Kuky

    OOoh I hope you have fun tonight! Can’t wait to hear about it. And I don’t think you’re a freak. We haven’t left Isabelle either. EVER. Maybe in 5 years. Is that too early? Ha ha ha! :)

  • Sarah

    I hope you had fun! It seemed like you guys left Baby Bug in very capable hands =) She is SO ADORABLE, by the way, photos on this site really don’t do your baby justice!

    Anyway, the first night here went alright. I’ll send some pictures and keep you guys posted soon.

  • BeachMama

    How did it go?? I still freak out when I leave the kids, but there are only a select few that I will leave them with. And they are all directly related to me by blood, except one, my Father-in-law. That’s it. We all survive as do the kids, it just feels strange not to haven them hanging off you.

  • Mrs. Wilson

    Oh I totally feel your pain. I hate leaving my babies. One is 6 years old, the other is 6 months old. We haven’t left the 6 month old yet … and I’m dreading the day that we have to.

  • nicole

    I love it … I thought I was the only mom who almost never leaves their baby girl! I hate going out without her which is why she is so well behaved at parties and restaurants. We have only left Little ‘Ny home with either her aunt or grandparents and handfull of times. But, in a few weeks we will be flying to Chi-town for 6 days with out Little ‘Ny … 6 FULL DAYS!!!!!!!!!!! I don’t know if I will make it that long. We might end up taking an early flight home!