Bug turns ELEVEN! (and gets blue hair!)
Can you believe Bug is ELEVEN?!!! Of course you can’t. Neither can I. It was like yesterday when she was born. I get heart palpitations every time I take a picture of her and she looks like a teenager already. But I can’t stop time and I can’t stop her. This girl is a powerhouse and she just keeps growing up every day!
Bug has wanted to dye her hair blue for about two years. Her cousins constant chameleon hair-change-ups might have something to do with it and her obsession with anime and changing her minecraft skins etc… If you know Bug you know how she is about color. Color is her thing and she has strong opinions.
Of course I told her that dying her hair was a silly idea and gave her about a thousand lectures on how pretty her hair was naturally. But as you can see she wore me down. And wore me down some more. Because I love my crazy girl and I really wanted to give her a present that would make her really really happy. I caved!
Off to the salon we went! Bug has a favorite salon and a favorite stylist. She’s way more loyal to her stylist than I ever have been. It might have something to do with her stylist being 24 and a really cool surfer dude but he always does a really good job with her hair and we make a special treat out of it when we go. You know, macarons at Lette, hotdog from the hotdog stand. It’s our bi-annual thing.
At first, when we started to take the hair-coloring subject seriously, I thought we’d go to a beauty college and save some $$$ but then I got worried that I might fry her hair and I’d ruin her (red flag number 1). So we opted to ask her stylist for a recommendation and he recommended Ally.
We set the appointment and waited for the day with great anticipation. It was crazy how excited we were. Then the day came and the bleaching began. BLEACHING. Oh-my-goodness. I bleached my daughter’s beautiful long healthy honey-blonde hair?!!! Who am I? This so wrong on so many levels. (Red flag number 2.)
The plan was to lighten Bug’s hair to a white blonde and then apply a blue-indigo ombre effect to that white blonde. It was a great plan. But then as Ally started blow-drying out the blonde, Bug and I both gasped at how pretty it was. It was this amazing out-of-the-bottle blonde color that every Californian aspires to. We thought, maybe we should keep the blonde and just apply the dark ombre indigo-teal color to the underneath in a cool peek-a-boo effect. In fact, that idea sat with me even better because the blonde was more natural, right? (Red flag number 3 with blinking lights and a siren!)
But then as she finished blow-drying and I saw the blonde getting brassy all the way up to Bug’s eyes, I started to feel anxious. I couldn’t ignore the sirens going off in my head any more. My kid should not look like this. This is the kind of blonde ombre effect grown women on Real Housewives of Orange County have. I started to feel sick to my stomach. But Bug loved it and was over the moon! Ally curled it all pretty and Bug felt like a golden princess. I was a ball of mixed feelings with alarms going off in my head.
By the time we got to her Dad’s house (she was at his house that week) I was experiencing a full panic attack over her hair. Sweating, my heart hurt… How could I have done this to my child! She looked like Iris from Taxi Driver and it was just wrong. Poor Bug had no idea why I was getting so upset. She started crying and I was crying. It’s amazing I could even drive. We were a mess.
Thankfully, Toby didn’t lose his marbles over my mistake when we got to the door and I exploded all of my worries and concerns. He agreed it didn’t look right for an eleven-year-old and we all decided we’d go back to the salon to fix it as soon as possible and stick to the original blue plan.
But Bug loved her blonde hair. It was such a mixed bag of emotions. On the morning of her next appointment Bug and I took an early morning walk with the dogs. She wore her rollerblades (her favorite accessory these days) and I took a few photos (with the dogs pulling me this way and that) just so we could remember how pretty it was. We put her hair up in tight Princess Lea buns so the swirls of blue showed through. It didn’t seem quite so offensive. I wanted to take more photos but we ran out of time. I’m glad we have these though.
It was such an emotional experience for both Bug and I, I know we will remember it for years. Someday we’ll laugh about it.
Back to the salon we went. This time with strict instructions to be pastel blue, indigo blue, and teal blue and nothing else. Everyone at the salon totally understood our concerns and they happily fixed her up into the prettiest mermaid princess you have ever seen. Bug was sad to see her golden locks wash down the drain in a puddle of purple but it was best. And we know the blue will wash out over time and the blonde will come back slowly and not so shockingly. AND best of all it’s just hair. It will grow back to her pretty honey blonde someday. And no she’s not getting another hair-dye-job as a birthday present ever again.
The blue turned out to be so much cooler in the end. I feel like I have my eleven-year-old back again. My crazy, cool, color-obsessed eleven-year-old. This is just so Bug.
I love you to pieces, you big blue smurf-head. Which Bug is quick to correct and let me know that smurfs have blue skin NOT blue hair. (eye roll)
Alison Z. (alibaba520 on IG)
Happy Birthday Bug!
happy birthday Bug! and happy birthing day SAJ
love the blue…so grown up!
I’ve been reading since you gave Bug her first new born bath (I was 18 and just as shocked as you that newborns get so dirty) thanks for sharing your life and inspiring this girl.
Keep capturing those moments…mine is 21 now with a full head of blue hair! Bug makes the most gorgeous mermaid – looks wonderful. I love that last photo!
Oh what a tale! It’s good for me to read this as I’ve promised K she can have a pink streak when she turns 10 in March…
Happy Birthday Bug ????????????
Sorry. Those were red balloons, not question marks. ?
?Happy, happy birthday to Bug !? I remember her sitting on your lap as your hair was getting done and she was sooo little. What a beautiful sea of blue and another loving story shared by you! ?Xxoo
Happy Birthday! Blue hair must be a trend in Minecraft loving 11 year old girls. My niece who is the same age, and is Minecraft obsessed wore her Mom down and also has some blue streaks in her dark brown hair. It does look cute, I have to say!
Happy Birthday and I LOVE THE BLUE!!!
Happy birthday, Bug! I’ve missed saying that most years but you don’t know me so you don’t care.
The blue is a much bolder and more individual statement than the blonde. It’s gorgeous!
Happy Birthday Bug!! As much as I can’t believe she is 11, it would mean that I have to remember that J is 13 and that means I am getting older too, so lets just pretend they as they get older we get younger :)
As for the blue hair, you are a rockstar Mama!!! We have had discussions here about this too. I keep telling Apple that women pay millions each year for hair her colour and she is only 9! So, we made an agreement that she is allowed to use spray on colour for Halloween and she got some coloured powders in her stocking for Christmas. Funny thing.. after spraying her hair blue twice for halloween, she is all done! She likes that she can powder some designs on if she likes, but he is happy now with her golden locks and I feel we are safe for another year or until she sees someone with really colourful hair, then it will start all over again.
11? huh?! When did that happen.
Happy birthday to both of you