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My Baby Goes to Meetings

What a week! On Thursday (tomorrow) or Friday I’m going to take Baby Bug into the conference room of a small office in a big business park and present a whole year’s worth of direct mail marketing concepts to one of my clients. That’s partly what’s been stressing me out so much lately. I’ve been trying to finish this up for months. Through thick and thin, spit up and exploding poop, aaaaa-booooh’s, pterodactyl shrieks and mandatory trips to the park…we finally got it done, Baby Bug and I. And since she’s been such a part of my life with this project lately, she’s going to the meeting to present with me too. How about that?

My client wanted it that way. When I got pregnant, I told them I couldn’t really keep working for them because I was going to be a full time mom. They were sad and said they’d get along okay but asked if there was anything they could to do to change my mind. I hemmed and hawed because this client is a really good client. They always pay me on time and they almost always love my designs. I love easy clients who give me freedom to do what I think works best. We negotiated and they came back with some parameters I thought I could fit into. Deadlines were off. I could take as long as I needed to get things done. I could phone in my meetings and they would send couriers to pick up my designs. And they said I could bring my cute little baby into the office any time I wanted to.

I think that’s what sealed it for me. I get to take my baby with me. Obviously a mother is running the show over there. So on Thursday or Friday, my mom and sister-in-law are coming into town to support me and we are all going to get dressed up in our most professional duds and present my marketing concepts. If only I had an Ally McBeal suit for Baby Bug. After that I’m going to go shoot an event at the local big mall and my sister-in-law and my mom are going to push Baby Bug in the stroller. I told you it’s a big week.

This is all fine and good and I’m actually excited about it EXCEPT….I think Baby Bug has officially entered the “stranger anxiety” stage of her development.

She pulled a screaming stunt last night that surprised even me. A friend came over for some last minute graphic design help (I swear I should open up my own kinkos in my house) and I handed Baby Bug off to her while I worked on scanning in her images. I’ve handed Baby Bug off to this friend plenty of times. Never has there been any screaming. In fact, at one point I was actually jealous of this friend who was so natural with babies. My own baby fell asleep more easily in her arms than mine. Well, not any more. Baby Bug screamed bloody murder. And she screamed and she screamed and she screamed. I think the neighbors probably stopped eating their dinner mid bite and looked at each wondering where that horrible screaming was coming from. There was nothing I could do to calm her down. Even Daddy holding her made it worse. It wasn’t until after my friend left and I held Baby Bug tight, singing “This Little Light of Mine” off key forty-seven billion times that she finally nodded off to sleep from exhaustion. Phew!

I can just imagine how things will go down at my meeting tomorrow if this happens. I’m sure it will be okay. I can always just drop off my designs and leave. But I really want to talk them over. It’s amazing how opinions can go from bad to worse if you aren’t there to hype your own work. I need to explain my thought process behind each piece.

One way or another, we’ll figure it out.

I have so many theories about why Baby Bug might have lost it last night that I confuse myself. It could have been because I took her on a really really long walk and for the first time she actually stayed awake and looked around her, taking everything in. Maybe her little brain hurt from trying to figure out why the sky was blue. My friend came over at seven, which is when Baby Bug usually starts her bedtime routine. Maybe she was tired and over-stimulated from a big day. My friend had a glass of wine before she came over and she smelled funny. Maybe Baby Bug didn’t like the smell of alcohol mixing with her perfume. Maybe Baby Bug is just a mommy’s girl because I hold her 24/7 and I really need to be around more people so she gets used to it. Maybe it’s because I’m teaching her to nap in her crib now instead of in the sling… Maybe all these changes are just too much for her. I could come up with theories until my face turns blue. All I know is that I just have to roll with it as it comes and somehow my mother instinct will know what to do.

I’ll keep you posted on how our meeting goes.


  • Aunt Jaynette

    It sure is good for the ego to have a boss say “what do you need to stay here?”
    I worked for three years after the kids were born because I received this kind of treatment. I had the president of the whole company tell my boss to do what I wanted. Then the upper echelon was all replaced, business went down, I was working at a smaller store and it just wasn’t my main focus anymore. The sweet deal went away and I quit to stay at home full time. Play the sweet deal. If they want you, they will do whatever it takes to keep you. You are in control. That feels good!!! Let’s make Bug a power suit. A whole new market to exploit.
    Good luck!!

  • Leah

    It seems like people are constantly forgetting that babies are people too. Sometimes we just have bad days and there’s nothing in particular that caused it and nothing in particular we can do to fix it. Rolling with the punches is definitely the best solution.

  • aunt kathy

    I’m not surprised that baby bug “made strange” when your friend held her. L did that too at three months and could not be held by anyone but me. Even Gran had to put her in her stroller to push her around the house while I was gone for a dentist appointment. Once we tried to take her to my dentist appointment and Gran sat in the lobby and held her so she was looking out and didn’t know who was holding her. Guess what? I believe that since I was so attached to her and she to me at such a young age and that I gave in to her “insecurity” that she is the confident outgoing young lady that she is today. She’s got lots of friends and is not afraid to reach out and stretch out on her own. So please reassure your little one that you will be there for her as long as and whenever she needs you. I think it is so important.

  • ginger incognito

    When I went back to work, I had a pretty good deal with my boss, and the Doodle came to our weekly meetings, as they were on a work-at-home day. She loved visiting with people and exploring the office. I’m betting Baby Bug will be too busy checking out the scenery and people to start a tantrum of any kind. And I agree with Leah: sometimes there’s nothing particularly wrong; they’re just having a bad day.

  • Jamie

    That is awesome! What understanding clients. And I can totally see you crafting a cool Ally McBeal onesie type getup for Baby Bug.

  • KJ

    So cool, and so great to be so wanted by a client!
    I’m taking 6-week-old Baby Wy to a professional conference Saturday–in a sling. All day. Hope we make it! (All four of us!)

  • BeachMama

    Congrats on getting it all together! You must be so excited and how great that they said you can bring her in with you. Try not to stress out about why Baby Bug is being strange, it could just be that she has reached that point and nothing else. Just run with it and you may find that she gets over it quickly.

  • Leslie in DE

    Just wanna say. I LOVE your blog. My son will be twelve weeks this Saturday, and we have had such similar experiences!!! I even had a vacuum (spelling?) assistance after pushing for a very long time and had a baby with a second head. Stitches? Hamburger nipples? I was so there!

    Your honesty is refreshing and it is punctuated by your writing style. I will continue to read your blog.

  • Christina (gentle hugger)

    so.. how did work go today? Was she fabulous and won them over with all her beautiful sweetness. Realizing in their folly, if you could bring forth such a beautiful child to this earth, of course your workmenship must be well above par!

    surely I jest, yet I’m certain her sweet little face had them paying more attention to her then, your work.