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Date Night

So where did I leave off? Date night.

My Fairy Godmother (Susan) was successful and she managed to kick us out of the house for our first night out without the baby. Phew! We did it. It was actually pretty fun. Usually Toby and I are horrible daters. We often spend the time arguing or giving each other the silent treatment. We’re horrible. But this night we both knew that we had to make the best of it because it was special and we probably wouldn’t have another date night any time soon. We were both on our best behavior.

Of course we worried about the baby the entire time but it was pleasant and I really enjoyed myself. I had my first glass of wine since before I was pregnant. It was delicious! I think Toby worried a lot more than I did. Baby Bug always falls asleep at seven and I had fed her minutes before we walked out the door. I knew I had until at least ten before she would wake up hungry. I also know that Susan would rock, cuddle, sing and dance to keep Baby Bug happy. She is an excellent babysitter.

I admit that the thought to call home did cross my mind but then I remembered how hard it is to take a phone call when the baby is crying. I know she would pick up because if she didn’t it would make me worry even worse. And if she did and the baby was crying, it would make the baby cry more and me worry more. All in all it was best not to call. If anything went wrong, Susan promised me she would call me.

Nothing went wrong. Baby Bug didn’t even make a peep the entire time we were gone. She is such a good baby.

It was so nice to go out. I think I’m struggling with this mom identity still. I felt like a million bucks when I dressed up in non-maternity clothes and Toby smiled and told me I looked nice. It’s nice to be admired as a wife again instead of just a mom. Don’t get me wrong, I love being a mom. But I still want to be a hot date too.


  • Becky Z

    Yeah Brenda! I’m so glad for you and Toby. I bet that did feel great to be out together on a date. I’m so glad that your friend was able to babysit for you. :-)

  • BeachMama

    YAY!!! How awesome that you got a date night :) Nothing beats being a Mom, but sometimes nothing beats getting dressed up and going out. HOpe you enjoyed it and get another one sometime again soon!

  • DeeJay

    Yeah me too. hehe A hot date, that I’ll never be again since I’m like pushing 40 and all. lol

    Oh well a girl can dream can’t she.

  • lainey

    Yay for date night! When I think about having kids, I get a little sad to think about giving up all that time that my husband and I have just for each other. Glad you had a great time and I love your illustration.

  • Fairy Godmother

    Dear Brenda, It was truly an honor for me to have been entrusted to babysit your sweet angel It also made me soooo happy for you and Toby to have some Mommy & Daddy time with just the two of you. I had such a wonderful time with you and I look so forward to getting together again soon. Remember my precious one to take time for you too. Lots of love and hugs XX..OO..

  • Kristin

    I’m so glad you enjoyed yourself. Date nights are rare little snippets of escape, but bittersweet, I’ve found, because there is always that lingering “Is the babe OK?”

    How lovely to have the Fairy Godmother, too.

  • Daisy Mae

    Gotta love that Fairy Godmother! She’s a keeper.

    First time I went out (after my 1st baby was born) I was so nervous that I hit the corner of a concrete wall in a parking garage. That was an expensive outting. And the funny thing was he never cried the whole time I was gone.

    I’m glad you and Toby didn’t hit a concrete wall.

  • ginger incognito

    Yay for date night! It took us way too long to start date nights, but I’m sooo glad we did. Hopefully, you two can get out once a month or more, so you can continue to be a hot date. :)

  • Emily

    Congratulations from a fellow SoCal new mama!

    Just make sure you keep up the date night. My husband and I went out on Friday night for the first time since the Babes was 2 months old. 5 months slipped away so fast for us.

    We were so tired and just kinda stared at each other the whole night, but it was fun! We felt so free!

  • Julia

    Delurking to say that I feel such a sense of identification with your blog. Our baby was born a little less than one month after Baby Bug and it feels so wonderful to read tales from someone in the same stage of life as me. Thank you so much for writing and illustrating! DH and I haven’t made it out on a date without the wee one yet, but I am looking forward to it.

  • Ninotchka

    Date night is SOOO important once you become parents. I was really aiming for at least one a month but we’ve fallen behind. Thanks for the reminder to get back on the ball! ;) Glad you enjoyed, that you have such a loving, trustworthy friend and caregiver for the Bug (what we called our first baby girl, by the way, still do!) and also, I love the illo! You’re just cranking them out, aren’t you? I’m loving it.

  • Jamie

    Yea you for going out on a date! I’ve got two little girls now and although it’s harder logistically speaking to go out, we are trying to do a date night at least once a month or every 6 weeks at the longest. Being a “hot date” for the night and more than just mommy is good for your soul, I think.

  • Kim

    Everyone needs a fairy godmother. I’m so glad you found one. Could you clone her and send her my way, please? Husband and I have been out three times since our baby arrived, one week shy of a year ago.