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“Book Club” at the Speakeasy
Which is better? A bunch of short posts or one long rambly post with aaaaaaaall the photos?
Do you know what I don’t like about my style of blogging in the recent past? I love photography, obviously, and lots of pictures are good. Still, when my posts turn into a series of photos with one-line descriptions under each one that strain to segway to each other, it reminds me of boring vacation slideshows. Gah!
Does anyone remember home slideshows? When I was little, I remember going to someone’s house with my parents and sitting on the floor in the dark while the host flipped through their projected vacation slides onto a cleared-off wall. It was usually very dull, and the photography was awful in the late seventies to early eighties—lots of pictures of people standing against walls with red eyes and glare or faces centered in the middle and miles of space above their heads or maybe some landmark that is as boring as toast. And here is the Grand Canyon, and here is a picture of a lake. The host would linger on some slides longer than others and skip through the interesting ones really fast. Ooops! Didn’t mean to share that photo of Aunt Priscilla in her bathing suit! Maybe there were snacks. There certainly wasn’t alcohol.
But I digress. Too much meta-talk.
Today, you get a short (actually long) post about going to my friend Tamie’s speakeasy in her house. If you ever meet Tamie (who you will have to call Tamara because I’m the only one allowed to use her original childhood nickname), you will know why she has a speakeasy in her house. Tamie is a theatre tech teacher, and everything is about props and sets. Every room in her home has a theme. It’s over the top and fantastic. Her living room has sliding bookcase walls that overlap each other. There is a dragon head mounted to her fireplace and a rumor of a fog machine inside it so that its nose steams. Sometimes, it’s Christmas all year around, and even better, it’s spooky Christmas with lots of flickering battery-operated candles that can change colors with an app. Her cats have their own Asian-themed room with catwalks and cubbies mounted to the wall. Of course, the walls are painted with murals.
When I moved in with my parents in January, I joked to Tamie that I might have to set up a speakeasy in my closet because my parents don’t drink, and I didn’t want them to know about my occasional debauchery. It turns out my parents don’t mind if I have a glass of wine now and then, AND Tamie set up a speakeasy in her house for me instead! How cool is that? It’s more of a craft room for her, but on “Book Club” night, she turns it into a lively little party room just for us!
A bookshelf desk opens, and inside are shelves with lights, fancy glasses, and bottles. There is also a light turquoise mini fridge and a pink microwave (swoon!). She serves all kinds of snacks, which she is famous for. Tamie is the queen of girl dinner. Then we put records on the record player and pretend we are back in the twenties. Wait, we are in the twenties!
Anyway, it’s super fun. I decided to take “Book Club” up a notch and dress up in a flamboyant mumu, crazy glasses, and all the jewelry I own. My cousin Jacob borrowed my gold velvet fedora, and we were ready to paint the town. Except the town was just us staying in and streaming silly songs on YouTube for each other on the speakeasy television, getting drunk, and then falling asleep and spending the night.
I love this kind of entertainment. Getting old has brought me so much freedom. I don’t care what I look like. I have more confidence than I’ve ever had, which is so funny since I think I look worse than I ever have. But who cares? Nobody! All that matters is that friends get together and have a good time. Maybe my parents did the same thing with their boring vacation slide shows!
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Girl Just Wants to Have Fun
My niece, Amari, visited for three days last week. She takes her job of being a kid very seriously. She is full of energy, imagination, and constant questions and demands. I love her so much. We did everything I could think of to keep her happy and occupied. I take my job as Super Auntie very seriously.
We went on morning wagon rides around the park, picked flowers and lemons, told stories, read books, made smoothies, scones, and lemonade. We dug out her grandma’s Barbie collection from the depths of the garage, and I let her play with a few of the less breakable items.
She is such a lively firecracker. The toy that kept her entertained the longest was a squirt bottle filled with water. She squirted and “cleaned” everything. A lot of it went down her mouth. I remember doing that as a kid, too. Water tastes so much better that way.
She absolutely delighted me.
But I was also super glad when bedtime finally rolled around. Playing with a kid all day is exhausting!
Whenever I felt annoyed or tired of being chatted at so much that I couldn’t think straight, I reminded myself that we were making core memories. These are the things Amari will remember and carry on into her life. I feel so special to be part of her memory. I won’t go into details for privacy’s sake, but this little girl does not have an easy life.
I love that her childhood is filled with smiles and peals of laughter that come so naturally. Children are blessed with optimism. They seem to have plenty of serotonin.
Over three days, we had a crash course in all the fun: baking, tent forts, favorite breakfasts, and mouths full of whipped cream.
I even snuck a few hours away to make a doll with her. She chose the fabric and the hair color and then played with Grandma (my mom) until I could finish sewing it. Dinner got waylayed, and household chores fell by the wayside, like they do. I am Super Auntie, but I can’t do it all. I sure tried, though.
Painting, making messes, and getting lots of one-on-one attention were so good for both of us. I wish I had the resources to do this daily with her like I did with Bug.
We maximized the three days, and I look forward to the next intense Auntie time I get. Her mom promised me that we could do this regularly as she needs a break from momming too. I remember that exhaustion well. It takes a village to give a child have a happy childhood.
Amari is a lot. She goes, goes, goes like an Energizer Bunny until she falls alseep hard like a phone with a dead battery.
And then the next day she’s all charged up to 100% and off we go again.
I love this kid and her wild imagination. She is just like her mom was at this age. It’s like I get Rapunzel all over again.
When I look at the world through her eyes, I am filled with hope. I hope she has all the opportunities she deserves. I hope the obstacles she was born into make her strong and more independent than those who have gone before her. I’m scared for her and all the difficulties she will face, but I am not as full of serotonin.
But I’m getting as much as I can! We both are. We found this white dog (a Great Pyranese) and told him he looked just like Cody.
The end.